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Passing Judgment

Nonfiction: Self Help, Motivational
Unabridged   8.25 hour(s)
Publication date: 01/09/2018

Passing Judgment

Praise and Blame in Everyday Life

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Audio CD ISBN:9781681689128
Digital Download ISBN:9781681689135


In Passing JudgmentTerri Apter reveals how everyday judgments impact our relationships and how praise, blame, and shame shape our sense of self.

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Product Description

Our obsession with praise and blame begins soon after birth. Totally dependent on others, rapidly we learn to value praise and to fear the consequences of blame. Despite outgrowing an infant's dependence, we continue to monitor others' judgments of us—and develop what relational psychologist Terri Apter calls a "judgment meter," which constantly scans people and our interactions with them, registering a positive or negative opinion.

Apter reveals how interactions between parents and children, within couples, and among friends and colleagues are permeated with praise and blame that range far beyond specific compliments and accusations. Drawing on three decades of research, Apter gives us tools to learn about our personal needs, goals, and values; to manage our biases; to tolerate others' views; and to make sense of our most powerful, and often confusing, responses to ourselves and to others.


"Her insights into social media are some of the book's most interesting, such as that people constantly checking Facebook aren't feeding a device addiction but looking for "satisfactory feedback." —Publishers Weekly

“Readers interested in psychological theory will be compelled by this book, as will all readers who just want to be better versions of themselves.” —Booklist

“Thoughtful discourse on the workings of praise and blame.” —Kirkus Reviews

Author Bio

Terri Apter is a writer, psychologist, and retired Fellow of Newnham College, Cambridge. Her nine books include The Sister Knot and What Do You Want from Me? She lives in Cambridge, England.